Mr Sissay detailed his experiences in the British . Buy My Name Is Why: Quick Reads 2022 Main - Quick Reads by Sissay, Lemn (ISBN: 9781838854645) from Amazon's Book Store. Its been fine., Greg Bramble counts himself lucky that he and his brother Richard, also featured, had a stable experience with a foster family in Warwickshire, but leaving his birth family aged 10 was traumatic, and negotiating their new family life was often fraught. We raced each other home from school every day and every day I got there first. Over the past few years I sensed I had done something wrong and yet didnt know what it was. This is the story of being stolen by the state and his 17 years in local authority care. Available in used condition with free delivery in the UK. We sweated until one of us, invariably Christopher, would burst into tears. Lemn Sissay MBE is a British author and broadcaster. My friends. On the back another poem is handwritten, composed on the train into London this morning, fresh on the page. Sissay was the official poet of the 2012 London Olympics, has been chancellor of the University of Manchester since 2015, and joined the Foundling Museum's board of trustees two years later, having previously been appointed one of the museum's fellows. My grandad and foster parents and I used to go down to the bay to get salmon, trout and mussels. Samaritans is a 24-hour service offering emotional support for anyone struggling to cope. Author and poet Lemn Sissay says there is "inherent prejudice against children in care". But success is not about being the lord mayor, she told a group of care leavers recently. The result is an inspiring photograph for young people in care today, Introduction by Claire Armitstead. He expected a certain amount of difficulty from the exposure but its not made anything weird at all, he says. The social worker handed Lemn to foster parents and declared his name Norman. ISBN-10: 1786892367 . Today, we are as close as she can allow herself to be. This was the beginning of the end of open arms and warm hugs. Why would she make that comment now? I loved life. The heartache and anger of his youth alternate in his poetry with lighter, whimsical aphorisms and celebrations of place . My Name Is Why: Quick Reads 2022: Amazon.co.uk: Sissay, Lemn: 9781838854645: Books Skip to main content .co.uk Hello Select your address No brothers and sisters. Christopher Goldsmith lived for a month, he writes, then quietly died, slipped away/ Almost never existed Christopher died so that I might have life/ and have it more abundantly., Cookson is one of the success stories of the UKs care system. LEMN SISSAY. We had the same rivalry most brothers have. 19 April 1978: There is a letter on file from Normans mother, written in 1968, requesting he be returned to her in Ethiopia perhaps Norman should be made aware of this? Social workers report, on which someone has written in block capitals, NOT YET I THINK. He dived into Mums arms and said: Mum, I beat Norman, didnt I? She stroked his head and said: Yes, you did. And then she looked at me. Thank you to Jude Kelly, and John McGrath. Author, broadcaster, chancellor of the University of Manchester. Raise me with sunshineBathe me in lightWash all the shadowsThat fell from the night, 11 December 1974: There are no problems with Norman. These experiences have shaped who I am today, an independent woman, passionate about my career and working with local authorities in Greater Manchester to ensure every young person has a voice, choice and control over decisions made about them., Psychodynamic psychotherapist and director of Integrated Minds and Artists on the Couch. ISBN: 9781786892362. Riordan was in respite care several times during his first four years. Mcintosh managed to make it to university and now runs a Caribbean restaurant, Sugarcane London, in Wandsworth, but he remains scarred by his experiences. Writer and national campaigner for young people in care, Chris Wild has written two books about his experiences in care, Damaged and The State of It, and has spent the past decade campaigning to improve the care system. Thered be many times in the future that I would play table tennis with myself by pushing the table against the wall. This was quickly followed bySuitcases and Muddy Parkswhich spoke of proving yourself to your parents and he fleetingly remembered how his own mum and dad went off one way, whilst he went off with a social worker. I am, as I have ever been, interested to hear anything Catherine has to say about the eleven year old boy who she and her husband placed into care. In that situation, a mother doesnt see her child, she is wrenched into the memory of the father. Sissay realised he'd been stolen. Theres all sorts of shapes of family that can work and your community can be whatever you choose it to be. He has been made an Honorary Doctor by the universities of Manchester, Kent, Essex, Huddersfield and Brunel, and in 2019 . Birthdays, Christmas, weekends, holidays I have to be the best family that I can be, to myself. The theology was perfect, the timing unquestionable and the answer as honest as a sinner could get. Most children in care have someone they can call family. Because her care experience happened so early she was in and out of a foster home in east London until the age of five Siroun Button never really thought of herself as somebody whod been in care. A lot of care-experienced people will also measure success by how were feeling internally, how we manage our mental health and wellbeing, and not always what were achieving externally. Moved into a childrens home aged six, Saha then went to live with adoptive parents in Merseyside the following year a complex but positive experience for which he feels lots of gratitude. None of it. I had no idea what he meant. show more Product details Format Hardback | 208 pages Dimensions 162 x 220 x 25mm | 422g We need to prioritise the voices of people with lived experience of care, she says. He made me realise that it could be a strength not a hindrance. Shes now a patron of the Bolton charity Backup North West which helped her get her first flat when she was 17. Natalie Hirst, right, with a girl she met while visiting her grandmother at her caravan site. One thing many share is dark memories of the shame and stigma they suffered. I said to Norman Mills in the car: I know this is my fault and I will ask God for forgiveness. He kept his eyes on the road, but his hands gripped tighter on the wheel. Narrated by: Lemn Sissay, Richard Burnip, Zoe Mills Length: 5 hrs and 20 mins Release date: 08-29-19 It was amazing to find him and realise where I get my activism from., Social work leader, campaigner and charity trustee. The sculpture commemorates the abolition of the transatlantic slave trade in 1807, which began the process of the emancipation of slaves throughout the British Empire. Because its not just my story, its the story of the people that have been kind enough to reconnect with me and the people that were selfless enough to bring me up. Whilst it served as a telling analogy for his own life, he apologised to anyone fresh to poetry readings as this was a weighty introduction but, he said, I wanted to push you. You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey. I believed her. Sissay was the official poet of the 2012 London Olympics, has been chancellor of the University of Manchester since 2015, and joined the Foundling Museum 's board of trustees two years later, having previously been appointed one of the museum's fellows. He received his MBE in 2010. I had no pictures, no photographs. He holds an English nationality and belongs to Black ethnicity. Not even a Bible. His love will shine through me and them. Seek and ye shall find. This is what they wanted to seek. Buy a copy for 11.99 at guardianbookshop.com, Lemn Sissay will be at Southbank Centre on 18 October as part of the London Literature Festival, Original reporting and incisive analysis, direct from the Guardian every morning. He spoke of finding wreckage from the crash in the documentary Internal Flight which can be viewed on YouTube. He's talked before about a later meeting, but this first reunion, on London's South. At 12, Norman was sent away to childrens homes. It was followed bySome Things I Like, which he said he had recounted to a girlfriend after she had asked him to tell her something about himself. Accidentally shares video of daughter over it can Listen to Capital Spoilers September 20 His mother was asked to sign adoption papers, but refused; she wanted him back when she could manage better. Now hes written a lyrical memoir describing his experiences, Lemn Sissay, poet, performer and chancellor at the University of Manchester, was born in Billings Hospital near St Margarets House for pregnant unmarried girls and women in Wigan, Greater Manchester, to an Ethiopian student on 21 May 1967. Google "Lemn Sissay" and all the hits will be about him. Its radically changed who I am.. Even this Great Hall, he reminded the audience, had been imagined by an architect before it had been built. The foster parents, Catherine and David Greenwood, went on to have three children of their own. Youre on your guard. His is an extraordinary story of family, and identity, lost and . It's Mrs Catherine Greenwood, my foster mother of the first eleven years. When he was four, Kriss Akabusis parents returned to Nigeria, leaving him alone in the UK with his younger brother. Its one of the things thats made me the happiest recently, the number of people who will happily associate themselves with their care experience, says Jonny Hoyle. He is in two minds about searching for his birth parents. "I found out about your past and then I heard you on Desert Island Discs," Lisa told Lemn . Lemn Sissay is a BAFTA-nominated, award-winning international writer and broadcaster. She was taken into a mother and baby unit as a 12-year-old mum, and had to fight to keep her daughter. He advocates for children in the local authority's care and is involved in organisations concerning their welfare. We want you to spend the next day thinking about love and what it is. For ever, for ages, until the end came, no matter how volatile the day had been, Id pray shed open the bedroom door before I slept, Id pray shed sit on the edge of my bed and sing me to sleep as she did when I was younger. It was actually seeing Lemn [Sissay] perform that helped me realise that you could talk about it. The abuse she endured, none of which came from her own family, was incomprehensible and frightening, she says. At school I was subject to all kinds of questions about my race, which I couldnt answer. He was British and Ethiopian. Moving unexpectedly from subject to subject, he thanked the girls for producing such wonderful flags devoted to his poetry which he had seen on the English corridor and said had truly moved him. He was an introvert. My grandad had a cottage in Lochinver we would visit in the summer holidays and at Easter. They include Olympic medallist Kriss Akabusi; novelist Jeanette Winterson; the comedian and Observer columnist Stewart Lee, and the Turner prize-nominated photographer and film-maker Zarina Bhimji. We can go on to do better if were just given the same life chances as other people. There are a lot of big emotions flying around the room. I was just nudging into adolescence at the time, and theyd recently had their third child, Helen. She had a deeply unsettled childhood, moving between foster families and childrens homes from the age of six months, after her parents were badly injured in a motorcycle accident. Mr Sissay, who grew up in the care system, shared his concerns after a report, published by the. I always thought it was something I had to hide. Fortunately were all busy people, so we have to rush off. And suddenly theyre all gone, a fleeting crowd of one-offs, whose generosity with their time and their stories has created an indelible image. He said with age had come wisdom and he realised that bitterness rots the vessel that carries it; forgiveness for him has given him great release. I felt important. Lemn Sissay was born on 21 May 1967 in Billinge Hospital, near Wigan, Lancashire Higher End, England, UK. Just me. Theyre part of a poem-a-day project by their author Paul Cookson, who was born in the north of England and adopted shortly afterwards by a family in Essex. It was a difficult situation, he says. LEMN SISSAY MBE is a BAFTA nominated International prize winning writer. Interviews by Killian Fox, I once was Christopher Goldsmith, reads a poem, neatly typed out on one side of a piece of A4 paper. Lemn means 'why' in Amharic, the official language of Ethiopia, where celebrated poet Lemn Sissay's mother was from. And he learned that his mother had been pleading for his safe return to her since his birth. She looked at me as if I had wounded her. Went on to talk about another placement for Norman without any consideration of how the boy might feel. Today we stand proud as care leavers and remove societys stigma. Brown defied expectations by progressing to university and getting a Masters. A lot of transracial adoptees talk about how racist their white families are, but actually, its racism that affects them too, and the way they see the world, says Rowe. Lemn Sissay as a child, with his foster family He tells me what happened when he met his mother a decade ago. My brother Christopher is a year younger than me and I really loved him when I was a kid. Poet, playwright, novelist, memoirist, radio broadcaster, documentary maker, public speaker, Chancellor of the University of Manchester. The project is the brainchild of poet and activist Lemn Sissay, himself a graduate of the system, who wanted to create an image of successful lives as an inspiration for the many thousands of children struggling in care today. Norman Mills, my new social worker, waited at the gate. His mother couldn't cope with him and his brother so they were put into the care of . It started at The Black Women's Cooperative - The Abasindi Coop - in Moss Side (1984 first paid gig) to todays event at Belfast Book Festival. She is now a psychodynamic psychotherapist and the director of two companies. He was British and Ethiopian, and he learned that his mother had been pleading for his safe return to her since his birth. But dont be fooled, she says. There are times, friends say, when he disappears altogether, depression paralysing him for months; times when he folds himself into himself. The care-experienced movement is shaping some of the thinking that people in care are talented and have so much potential. Yes, you did.. He felt that Normans successes were too many for [his brother] Christopher to cope with. Mr Sissay with his godmother Ethiopia Alfred (Jonathan Brady/PA) After being reunited with his birth mother aged 18,. Libraries were my hallowed space, and librarians were kind guardians who gave me orphan tales. Now, as part of her PhD, Canning is writing her own novel, entitled Hiraeth, about a 16-year-old orphan leaving a childrens home in the mid-1970s. We look at reclaiming the adoption narrative and reframing the worlds view on adoption, and also helping adult adoptees heal from their trauma.. I have a very happy childhood memory of being in Scotland on holiday when I was about four. One of the greatest signs of my own sense of independence when I left care was the day I could ask for help when I needed it. They were happy, he says. Just before Christmas in 1983 the 16-year-old "Norman Greenwood" discovered his real name and Ethiopian roots in his birth certificate and some letters from a social worker. I was born in the era of forcible adoption my mother was coerced into giving me up, says Louise Wallwein. He followed his dad into the antiques trade. In. None of us have ever looked into our birth parents, he says. Christopher was their first-born, but I was their first. It was about having support and confidence, and knowing what is possible, she says, I didnt even know what an artist was.. Since then his poems have become landmarks, sculpted in granite and built from concrete, recorded on era-defining albums and declaimed in over twenty countries. She wanted her child to be fostered while she studied. You just get used to battling with everybody all the time, and you always have your guard up. Now she is a lived experience consultant and the co-founder of calling4gr8ness.org, supporting care-experienced young adults in the creative industries. "I spend all day in bed today," he once wrote plaintively on his blog. His mother was a student at the time of his birth who had come from Ethiopia to study in Bracknell City, England. Lemn Sissay is an award-winning writer, poet, playwright, artist and broadcaster. He is now Birds principal and artistic director. Lemn means 'why' in Amharic, the official language of Ethiopia, where celebrated poet Lemn Sissay's mother was from. When Allan Jenkins embarked on his gardening memoir Plot 29, he found himself writing about the helplessness of seed just three paragraphs in and was prompted to revisit his unsettled past, growing up in foster care in south Devon with his older brother Christopher. Macavity was such a contrast to my blond, blue-eyed brother Christopher. Read the scriptures and give us your most honest and truthful answer tomorrow.. Composite: All images courtesy of contributors, Every one of us has a different story: a historic portrait of care system success, once was Christopher Goldsmith, reads a poem, neatly typed out on one side of a piece of A4 paper. My experience has taught me the importance of having kind, supportive adults in the lives of children in care to help them feel safe, cared for and treated like one of the family, she says. We were very secure in our upbringing. But he did accidentally come across his birth name: Christopher Goldsmith. Lemn Sissay is a poet, author and broadcaster who was the official poet of the London Olympics in 2012. Ive forgiven my foster mother. These moments stuck in my memory. She is now employed by the NHS in Greater Manchester, leading a programme to create trauma responsive communities and organisations and to improve health outcomes and opportunities across the region. Theyre part of a poem-a-day project by their author Paul Cookson, who was born in the north of England and adopted shortly afterwards by a family in Essex. Lemn was born in 1967; two months later, he was taken into care. But I felt different. This is very powerful stuff, Lemn, not least because it echos so much of my own life, though in ways very different from yours. The Greenwoods were strict Baptists and their foster child's high spirits appeared to wear them down. This was the beginning of empty Christmas time and hollow birthdays. I got racial abuse for a small amount of time, he recalls. I sat at the table and my mum looked at me intensely. Ive never used it in a serious way, and I absolutely never will, says Stewart Lee of mining his care experience for standup material he was in care for the first year of his life before being adopted by a couple in Solihull. As he moved into adulthood he was given his birth certificate and saw that his real name was Lemn Sissay and that his mother was called Yemarshet. Best known for designing clothes for Diana, Princess of Wales, Bruce Oldfield was born in Durham and fostered at 18 months by a seamstress, Violet Masters, who taught him how to sew. They treated me as if I was a Trojan horse sent into the family to destroy it. Ripped away from his Ethiopian mother in infancy, he endured over a decade of mistreatment and wilful cruelty in the British care system. Paperback. This is the story of being stolen by the state and his 17 years in local authority care. But they were telling me that I didnt love them because if they could convince me that I didnt love them, they would have a reason to put me into care. She is also a trustee of the charity Pure Insight, which supports young people to have a better care-leaving experience than she did herself. Its like, should I be receiving all of this, should I even be doing it? he says. Christopher, Sarah and I were on top of the world. By isolating and highlighting the success of care-experienced people it can become voyeuristic and soothes decision-makers into thinking that meritocracy is real. But there is no moment of revelation in this story where everybody hugs. To mark National Poetry Day this month, poet and author Lemn Sissay muses on a country childhood of mixed blessings - and why this year he is more hopeful than ever. This was the beginning of not being touched. And this is what I found. I slowly realised I was being set up. The car filled with quiet loss. Yet in 1980, at the age of 12, young Norman was abruptly expelled from his white . He spent his childhood moving between different carers after his mother was killed by his father in 1966. After a 31-year campaign he received them in 2015. 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