Good luck. He knows you can succeed, and perhaps this struggle is the best way for you to learn to be humble, meek and submissive to your Heavenly Father. Be humble and through the grace of God and his Son Jesus Christ. I want to go on a mission in January, and I dont want this is delay my mission. God Loves you whether you deserve it or not, and he will always help you whether you see it or not, but in order for him to remain God, he has to follow the laws and that means he can not bless you unless you follow them to. I love that he used the word "enthusiasm" when talking about repentance. If you havent had any problems in that area in four years, Im sure the Lord has forgiven you and you need not let it bother you any more. If we have lied, we will lie no more. Id be happy to quit because smoking weed does not bring me joy, but Im more concerned with the result of this sin. Some serious sins can prevent you from ever serving a mission. Now, to make the repentance complete, you need to also confess. What steps do i need to take? Good luck, thanks for reaching out, and God bless. I know you dont want your parents or friends at church to be disappointed in you, but remember that what God thinks is more important than what other people think of you. As we repent and rely on His saving grace, we will be cleansed from sin. How do these couples go from ecstatic levels of love and happiness to frequent conflict, bitterness, and in many cases, divorce? A week prior to reporting to the MTC, I was flushed with temptation to masturbate. Her input will improve your output. is it possible to repent and go on a mission without talking to your bishop or telling your parents? Ultimately, repentance is a relationship with God. First, have faith and confidence that God loves you and with strengthen you. Of course, youll want to talk to your bishop about it since he represents that Lord in making that determination. I have repeated personally and gotten rid of anything that will tempt me. Remember what the Lord told Hyrum Smith, Seek not to declare my word, but first seek to obtain my word, and then shall your tongue be loosed; then, if you desire, you shall have my Spirit and my word, yea, the power of God unto the convincing of men. (D&C 11:21). He may be all smiles to get you to follow, but he is pure evil. I really dont have anyone to talk to anymore about this problem because the only person I trusted not to run their mouth about it was my bishop and he just got called to another position as 1st counselor in the stake presidency. I just dont feel comfortable. I want to clear something up. Regarding the partaking of the sacrament, that is a personal decision you should make so pay close attention to the promptings of the Holy Spirit. Its impossible for me to say whether or not youll be able to serve. The bishop knows about past masturbation problems now Im trying to overcome the habit but temptation is always there. May the Lord guide you and direct you through the promptings of His Holy Spirit as you go through the repentance process. We all have need to repent. I was in a relationship with a guy, an inactive member, for about a year and ended it 3 months ago. Jesus Christ calls His disciples to repent. There are specific ways in which we can likely improve. Be prayerful, drink deeply from the scriptures, and I know that through the power of God you will be able to overcome it and be able to return to live with your Father in Heaven in Celestial glory. See Mark 1:4; Mosiah 18:20; Alma 37:33; 3Nephi 7:23; Moroni 3:3; Doctrine and Covenants 19:21; 44:3; 55:2. Forgiveness is the perfect antidote for the poison of resentment. If we have committed adultery, we will stop. If you are unsure of your standing before God, then I recommend you go talk to your bishop. If you have a need to repent because of the way you have treated the women closest to you, begin now. In many of these cases, the young people have developed their testimony of the restored gospel of Jesus Christ, and they desire to serve a mission. Now, as my mind caught hold upon this thought, I cried within my heart: O Jesus, thou Son of God, have mercy on me., And now, behold, when I thought this, I could remember my pains no more.. Only your bishop will be able to tell you the answer to this and many of your questions. Will I have to stop taking the sacrament for this? Ive had many nights and days where Ive felt nothing but guilt and just this, unbearable sadness for what Ive done. Would you have to go start over and go that certain amount of months again? If so do I need to talk to the bishop of Ive prayed about it? Thanks! Do you think it is too late for me to serve a mission? He will help you repent, which is the most important focus for you right now, and also he will be able to tell you if a mission could still be in your future. Godly sorrowthe broken heart and contrite spiritis much more than remorse or regret over having sinned. Since you recently moved, perhaps this is a good time to start fresh with a new life and leave your sinful past life behind you. Instead of accepting full responsibility, Adam put the blame to Eve while Eve put the blame on the serpent (Genesis 12:13). I suggest being completely open and honest with your bishop. Follow their counsel and hopefully, you will be able to return to the mission field soon. I have broken the law of chastity, I confessed to my bishop and I am currently on probation. Answer (1 of 2): Each situation is treated individually but you would likely wait at least a year to be reinstated. Will my process be long or will I be excommunicated? Satan knows who you are and who you were premortally, and he understands the work that must be done before the Savior returns. will my mission get delayed if i tell my bishop or am i inligible to go because i never said anything? Thus, when Jesus asks you and me to repent,6 He is inviting us to change our mind, our knowledge, our spiriteven the way we breathe. When you talk to your bishop, he will give you more specifics. May God bless and be with you. Our sincere sorrow should lead us to forsake (stop) our sins. While I am on my current probation I broke the word of wisdom again (alcohol and tobacco ) and have not had sex but done things with another member that I dated. That is a good and righteous desire. We didnt have sex, but we definitely broke the law of chastity. Personal purity can make us powerful tools in the hands of God. You may be surprised at how understanding and loving she will be. Ultimately, its impossible for me to judge this situation. It could be a year. Having a defined, universal waiting period is akin to offering up 30 hail Marys and 50 our Fathers. Repentance and forgiveness are complementary gospel principles, and both are necessary in order for us to progress spiritually. Get on your knees and pray each morning for strength beyond your own to resist sexual temptation. In order to be forgiven, we must first acknowledge within ourselves that we have sinned. James said, To him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin (James 4:17). Can you go back to the bishop from the old ward who understands what has been going on? Your family needs your leadership and love. So I can anticipate the worst. Nor is there any mention in the handbook that came out in 2010. Obviously I would think about it and pray about it a lot more before making that decision. . Except for Jesus Christ, who lived a perfect life, everyone who has lived upon the earth has sinned. Can I still be married in the temple someday, Im 17 years old now and Im confused about it. We need to forgive and move on. Fear not what man can do, for God shall be with you forever and ever (D&C 122:9). We can be forgiven only on His terms. It includes turning away from sin and turning to God for forgiveness. I feel like He is trying to teach me something and I cannot figure out what that is. According to his bishop, I dont need to confess it to my ward bishop, since everything happened was really against my will. Long talks are replaced by frequent arguments or angry silence. By this ye may know if a man repenteth of his sinsbehold, he will confess them and forsake them. (D&C 58:43) For small sins, that confession can be to God in prayer, but for major sins, it is important to confess to both God and to your priesthood leader. So there goes another broken law of chastity. However, im not sure if he resolved things about it with his bishop because ive never really had the courage to ask him about it but im assuming he did. But as we seek to increase our love for God and strive to love our neighbor, the light of the gospel will surround and uplift us." -Dieter F. Uchtdorf I have always had the thought of a temple marriage in the back of my mind, for that reason i have never had any type of sexual contact with another person. It also involves touching and kissing, i think it can be describe as light petting. I just want to ask in what way I need to confess, especially because I dont find it comfortable to talk to a man about this stuff. My sin is pretty grievous with the law of chastity. Repentance in a marriage is different. The bishop and stake president have the responsibility to confirm that the person is free from serious transgression for a sufficient time to make sure they have manifested true repentance. First let the words of God sink deep into your heart and let them be reflected in all your actions. But whether or not you have committed serious transgressions, like serious violations of thelaw of chastity, we all make mistakes and need to utilize the repentance process. I cant tell you definitively because there are a lot of factors involved. The Lord said to early Church missionaries, And in this place let them lift up their voice and declare my word with loud voices, without wrath or doubting, lifting up holy hands upon them. I have been talking to my bishop and have told him everything. Behold, your sins are forgiven you; you are clean before me; therefore, lift up your heads and rejoice. I pray that you can stay worthy as you continue to prepare for your mission. We must fill our lives with righteousness and engage in activities that bring spiritual power. I stand in awe of the miracle of the human body. He also feels really sorry for putting me in this predicament. Those are the exact words he used with me. Sins slow our spiritual progression and can even stop it. . Im 18 and its currently January, I hope to put my mission papers in April. I hadnt felt guilty about it before because I always thought it wasnt my fault, but now hes making me think that Ive committed a sin. Second, know that the battle against Satan is real, and when you go into battle each day, you should prepare yourself just like when the Nephites. Part of repentance is to make restitution. Ezra Taft Benson, Beware of Pride, Ensign, May 1989, 67. And I dont want to be the one who prevents his full repentance, but he also told me that bishop would then probably approach me to start my repentance process too. Thanks for the help! Initially, it is obvious that Adam and Eve did not repent. The prefix meta- means change. The suffix -noeo is related to Greek words that mean mind, knowledge, spirit, and breath.5. [repentance] is motivated by love for God and the sincere desire to obey His commandments. Not by guilt that comes from the feeling of causing additional pain to the savior. These same principles apply within a marriage, and perhaps more so. God is always there and will always be there for you!! Ill be going to a different ward soon, but Im terrified with the possibility of how long the repentance process could take. I have heard that sexual addiction is one of the most difficult types of addiction to overcome. To repent, we must admit to ourselves that we have sinned. Hey Jimmy We are not fully repentant if we do not pay tithes or keep the Sabbath day holy or obey the Word of Wisdom. May God bless and be with you. Hoping for your positive response, thank you , Im sorry I posted it here in leave a reply because I dont know where to post hehehe. It seems that raising the bar means one has to repent differently than normal. 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